Are you disrespecting yourself? The relationship rules that exist are just as important for our relationships with ourselves as they are for our relationships with others. Trusting, listening, communicating and most of all respecting ourselves is important to living in our truth.
You canât be the best version of you without giving yourself the same respect we demand of others. The problem is that we donât often see how we treat ourselves as either respectful or disrespectful. These signs will certainly help:
You may be disrespecting yourself if. . .
1. You’re saying yes to things that are unimportant to you or that you donât have time for.
Respect your time and energy by spending it on projects and with people that matter most. We arenât doing ourselves any favors by over-scheduling our days and taking time away from the necessary self-care that makes us whole.
2. You present yourself as something youâre not to gain favor.
Weâve all felt the need to give our life a bit of a facelift to impress someone. We also know that we shouldnât have to do it, yet we do it anyway. Itâs the ultimate sign of disrespect to ourselves to think who we are isnât good enough. And if we arenât good enough for them, the real truth is they arenât good enough for us.
3. You often agree with what someone says only because you donât want to offend them.
Our opinions matter and when we donât express them, we are basically saying to ourselves and everyone around us that they donât. If someone is offended by our honest and thoughtful opinions, then they werenât seeking advice, they were seeking a âyesâ man. Show respect for you and others by expressing how you feel honestly and with kindness.
4. Disrespect yourself by putting your needs behind the needs of others.
We don’t do anyone any favors by ignoring what we need regarding rest, relaxation and overall self-care. We operate better, are more productive and emotionally stable when we are taking care of ourselves.
5. When you feel guilty for doing what is right for you even if it goes against the advice youâve received.
Seeking advice has a place in our lives for sure, but itâs important to remember itâs only advice. Whether giving or receiving it, there shouldnât be a personal affront when it isnât followed. It only means it wasnât quite right at that time. Donât feel guilty for going against the advice you received and making a decision that feels right to you.
6. You donât defend yourself by setting the record straight.
Nobody thrives on conflict, and sometimes it is easier just to let things go. We have to balance that with defending ourselves. To respect ourselves, itâs important that people know the truth about us and our role in certain situations. Sometimes itâs correcting a wrong, and other times itâs correcting a right. Either way, painting a clear and accurate picture is the ultimate sign of respect.
7. You regularly hide how youâre feeling.
We are creatures of feelings and emotions, but society has taught us to keep them hidden so as not to make others uncomfortable. You disrespect yourself whenever you say things are fine when they arenât. Be true to who you are and, more importantly, how you feel.
8. You overtly seek outside attention.
The only attention that truly matters is the attention we give ourselves. When we seek attention from others, we look for outside validation of something we probably already know. If you find yourself seeking someone else’s approval, look within and figure out whatâs missing. Then go to work on filling the gap.
9. You constantly try to make others happy, becoming their doormat.
We only can affect our happiness, and when we are happy, we want others to be happy too. The problem with trying to make others happier is that is we usually end up leaving them wanting, and as a result, we create a greater void on the inside. We can affect the greatest change by focusing on ourselves. As a famous quote by Mahatma Gandhi says, âbe the change we want to see in the world.â
10. By surrounding yourself with bad company.
It is hard to be authentic when hanging out with people who do not appreciate and share beliefs and values that help promote our true selves. Take the time to find and grow with like-minded people that support who you are. Itâs hard not to respect yourself when you are loved and supported.
Nobody sets out to be disrespectful to themselves, but so many automatic behaviors end up doing just that. Automatic responses to how we feel, not speaking our minds to avoid hurting feelings, and seeking validation from an outside source instead of within, while seemingly harmless, are forms of disrespect.
Stop Disrespecting Yourself
So stop disrespecting yourself. Know that you don’t have to take the path to least resistance by ignoring your wants and needs. Stand up for who you are and what you believe in a kind, but firm manner. That is the ultimate sign of respecting yourself.
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