A man has two options in a relationship: Either stand up and be the man she needs or sit down, so she can see the man behind you.
Women fall in love with a man because of his character. Women also stay in love because of the manâs character. As men, our character should not change simply because we are now officially âin a relationship.â The truth is, you can lose the woman by doing soâŚquickly.
It is our duty, as men, to be upright and honest in everything that we do. Not just in a relationship, but outside of it. It goes without saying that your woman deserves a man with such traits of honesty and goodwill.
This article discusses 20 things a man should stop doing in a relationship. This notion assumes that you still indeed love the woman. Bearing this in mind, it is important to cease character-damaging behavior before itâs too late.
NOTE: If you want to know the actions women must stop for a successful relationship, we cover them in a separate article.
20 Things Every Man Should Stop Doing In His Relationship
1. Donât stop getting to know your partner.
Just because youâre together donât mean that inquisitiveness stops. Donât become too complacent by thinking you know everything about her.
2. Donât underestimate the importance of your partner’s work.
Whether your partner is a stay-at-home mom or a full-time office worker, donât neglect to recognize their hard work.
3. Donât go straight for the couch after getting home.
This is such a common behavior for us men! We have a long day and canât wait to flop onto the soft cushions of our couch. If sheâs home, give her a kiss and ask about her day.
4. Donât put work before your partner.
Many men take it upon themselves to provide the best possible life for their partner. While this is admirable, donât allow your work to distract you from whatâs truly important.
5. Donât pretend to be listening when youâre not.
âUh…uh-huh…sounds good.â Meanwhile, you didnât listen to a word that she said. Maintain eye contact, engage in conversation, and show her that youâre really good listener.
6. Donât become a closed book.
When life gets difficult, itâs so easy for us to just shut down. But us men have to remember that someone is depending on us to be physically and mentally present.
7. Donât critique or criticize your woman in front of others.
When thereâs tension between you and her, itâs important to remain calm and collected. Donât allow yourself to say something, especially in front of others, that you may come to regret.
8. Donât preemptively mention âbreaking up/divorceâ
Breaking up is serious, and divorce even more so. These words should never be muttered in haste. Doing so can even end a salvageable relationship.
9. Donât procrastinate with your household duties.
If itâs your responsibility to take out the garbage after dinner, do it. If you said youâd clean the garage this weekend, do it. Be a responsible man around the house.
10. Donât forget to communicate your whereabouts.
Communication is the backbone of any relationship. When a man doesnât clue his woman in on where heâs going or what heâs doing, itâs incredibly disrespectful.
11. Donât purchase anything major without first discussing it.
Oh, you want that new TV? Is that new suit catching your eye? Thatâs cool. What isnât cool is purchasing something costly without first discussing it with your lady.
12. Donât hone in on other women for too long!
Beautiful women are almost irresistibly eye-catching. A first look â even a short âtrailâ â is natural. However, itâs probably best to check your woman-watching in front of your woman.
13. Donât force her to make all the important decisions.
Not all decisions can be made together, for whatever reason. However, when it comes to something significant (e.g. your kids, the house), you must be willing to expend some brainpower and help with the decision.
14. Donât react impulsively while arguing.
This one spells (unavoidable) danger. When our temper rises, we have a tendency to allow our brain to check out. This can lead to hurtful words being uttered without thinking. Allow yourself to cool down.
15. Donât take advantage of her kindness.
One reason you probably fell in love with your woman is her sweet nature. Women can be very caring and generous; but this doesnât give you the right to take advantage. Reciprocate kindness, as well.
16. Donât forget to plan an evening out, on occasion.
Gosh, it just seems that weâre so busy all the time. When weâre home, it can be so tempting to want to just âNetflix and chill.â This is cool most of the time, but donât forget to add novelty by taking her out on the town on occasion.
17. Donât expect her to tend to your every need.
Somewhat related to #15, it is important to not anticipate her meeting your every need. As men, we must take it upon ourselves to be responsible. This means caring for ourselves, in many ways, like we did before we met her.
18. Donât accuse her of anything without evidence.
This one is another potential backbreaker. Accusations, especially of the serious kind (e.g. cheating) can irreparably damage a relationship. Make sure you have clear evidence of the offense.
19. Donât insult her man friends.
Odds are she probably has a male friend or acquaintance that may rub you the wrong way. You can verbalize these concerns without insulting her social circle.
20. Donât attempt to control her.
As partners, you should both understand that time apart is both healthy and necessary. When she tries to have a night to herself, let her without becoming a master.
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