People who are genuinely happy most of the time are a conundrum to those who are not. Taken a step further, people with a positive disposition can be annoying to those who do not possess such a disposition.
The human brain is an enigmatic entity, one that even the brilliant minds struggle to understand. We still canât explain the origin of thoughts, regardless if we know what produces them. Put another way: we know that the brain makes us aware of thoughts, but not a single person knows exactly where these thoughts come from.
One thing that scientists (and most others) do understand is that the brain is a creature of habit â it has a way of repeating itself. This is a benefit when those thoughts are positive and a hindrance when thoughts are negative.
The good news is that we can learn to be happier people if we make a conscious effort. The key words here are conscious effort. Not a single person can expect to alter their disposition, personality, outlook, etc., without first having a plan. One important component of such a plan is to know what not to do. Emotions play a key role in this respect â happy and unhappy people both have emotions, they are just of a different variety.
“All emotions are pure which gather you and life you up; that emotion is impure which seizes only one side of your being and so distorts you.” – Rainer Maria Rilke
Here are 8 negative emotions that happy people avoid:
Related article: 10 Habits of Unhappy People (And How To Avoid Having Them)
1. Happy People Avoid Impulsiveness
Happy people recognize that being impulsive can bring about an array of troubles. When one is impulsive they are more likely to overspend, overeat, lash out, become angry, and generally make bad decisions. On the other hand, when one is thoughtful, it becomes much easier to avoid harmful actions. Of all the negative consequences being impulsive brings about, the most injurious effect is the damage it beings to relationships. Happy people recognize that a particularly harmful word or deed can hurt someone, sometimes irreparably.
2. Envy
Itâs very difficult, if not impossible, to be content with current circumstances when wishing for someone elseâs. Genuinely happy people are appreciative and grateful for what they have, rather than what they could have. At its core, envy is a manifestation of unhappiness. Oppositely, being grateful and appreciative is an indicator of happiness. Weâd all be better served if we chose the latterâŚjust ask happy people.
3. Jealousy
Some people think that envy and jealousy are the sameâŚthey are not. Envy, as counterproductive of an emotion as it is, doesnât usually correspond with betrayal or outrage as jealousy does. Simply put: enviousness occurs when we lack a desired attribute of someone else. Jealously is reacting to the perceived threat of losing someone. It goes without saying that happy people arenât jealous often, if at all.
4. Happy People Don’t Engage in Revenge
Revenge invokes harmful emotions and contributes absolutely nothing. In the short-term, thoughts or feelings of harming someone else â physically, emotionally, or in any other way â can bring about a sense of satisfaction. Carrying out such, however, often leaves much to be desired. After all, we canât control what other people do, only how we choose to respond to what people do. Happy people donât carry around this extra baggage.
5. Superstition
To be clear, this is not a criticism of spirituality or religion. Instead, the thought process here is that relying on something, anything to fulfill us is often bears little fruit. Happy people realize that each individual inhabits the potential to create their own happiness. Donât allow superstition to dictate what is or is not possible. Donât give away your power.
6. Fear
Itâs human nature to be fearful once in a while. To say âdonât fear anythingâ is, frankly, a stupid and irresponsible piece of advice. The appropriate advice is to not let fear take control. Some of the happiest people in the world have taken risks that wouldâve scared the daylights out of most of us. Yet, their positive outlook on life enabled them to march right through that fear. They refused to be denied what was rightfully theirs.
7. Hostility
Hatred, hostility, spitefulness â call it whatever â are pointless emotions. Not only are they pointless, theyâre counterproductive. What does having negative thoughts or feelings towards someone or something accomplish? Stress, exhaustion, guilt, and often times, shame. Think of all the expended energy! Now think of what that energy could be used for. This reason, among others, is why we wonât witness manifestations of hostility from most happy people.
8. Happy People Reject Unacceptance
Happy people are generally very accepting and loving individuals. Bitter, resentful people are generally the ones making the effort to exclude people. If we canât at the very least accept each person as an individual, what kind of hope is there? Hereâs an interesting exercise: think of the happiest people in your life. Got it? Now, think about how they treat people. Odds are, these folks are accepting and loving individuals towards most.
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