Social media is the wave of the future. Itâs how we connect with others, from friends to family to coworkers. Social media has also changed how most people see and handle relationships. Posting everything about yourself on social media can be tempting, especially to validate a quick âlikeâ reaction.
While social media is an excellent way to interact with people when you canât see them every day, it can also be something that can cause issues within your relationship if youâre not careful. Some things should never be shared on your social media regarding your relationship.
Here Are 8 Things About Your Relationship Never to Post On Social Media
âEverybody wants to be a celebrity, which is why we have this phenomenon of social media, where nobody wants to be private. We all want to be seen.â – Â Marc Jacobs
1. Keep your sexual relationship private, not on social media
Not many people want to hear whatâs going on between you and your significant other, and if they do, you probably DONâT want them to be interested in the first place. While it may be tempting to talk about what a great job your partner does in bed, keep it to close friend talk or text messages with your besties. Avoid talking out in the open about what goes on behind closed doors.
2. Donât post personal information about your partner
According to clinical sexologist and relationship expert Dawn Michael, Ph.D., âYou can post things that are personal about you if you want, but don’t post things about your significant other because it becomes an invasion of their privacy.â There are some things that people want to keep private about themselves, like their nightly routines or whether or not they sleep with a stuffed animal. Even if itâs something that you find entirely endearing, your partner might not like having their details shared all over social media. After all, their co-workers may see it, making it awkward Monday morning at the office. Unless your partner has OKâd it, try to keep personal details to a minimum.
3. Refrain from telling the world about your arguments
Donât ever post your loverâs quarrels publicly! Not only does it invite people who arenât involved in the argument, but it can be uncomfortable for both of you. Michael continued, âNever put your significant other down on social media, or talk about a fight that the two of you had or are having. When that argument is over, you may seriously regret saying anything because now people will have a negative impression of your partner.â
Keeping arguments between yourselves and learning to work them out is far better than airing your dirty laundry in public. After all, your friends and family will take your side, and you could paint an unfair picture of your partner. Once the fight ends, youâll be much happier that it will stay between you.
4. Unapproved pictures of your significant other without permission
When you sneak a picture of your partner sleeping in a funny position, it may be cute and endearing to you – but keep it to yourself until your partner has had a chance to approve whether or not you post it. Your partner may not enjoy a picture of themselves drooling onto your pillow going viral. Besides, when you get permission, youâll know youâre both having fun and enjoying the recognition the picture gets.
5. Donât post mean jokes about your partner
Marriage and family therapist Aaron Anderson states, âWhen you bring funny things your spouse did up in the right circles, thereâs no harm done. But when you post their screw-ups on social media, thereâs no context behind it and thereâs no filter for what crowd they get shared with. Regardless of how cute you thought it was, your spouse may not want your mother or your college ex to know about it.â
You canât translate either tone or intent over text. While you can make mean-spirited jokes to your partner in person, and theyâll be able to tell youâre just teasing them, itâs not the same over social media. The minute you put a mean joke about your partner on social media, youâre no longer able to control the tone and intent of the joke. Other people are going to see that joke and not understand the context. If youâll tease your partner, keep it to text messages!
6. Donât post passive-aggressive complaints about your partner
Not only will stumbling across a vague post about your partner make them feel bad, but itâll also dent your communication ability. If you have a problem with your partner, tell them! The both of you will work it out much faster than if they have to figure out that youâre upset by a Facebook or Twitter post. Also, itâll keep other people out of your drama.
7. Refrain from posts that are seeking validation
Everyone loves getting notifications whenever they post something on social media. It can be addictive! But try to avoid posting things that seek validation about your partner – from whether or not you two are compatible to pictures of you two kissing. If youâre happy together, thatâs all that matters! No one elseâs approval matters but your own. Once you learn to ditch the validation, youâll be much happier.
8. Stop posting disparaging posts about your partnerâs ex or prior relationship
Even if your partnerâs last relationship was a disaster, keeping the trash talk to yourself is better. When you post about your partnerâs ex, it only makes you look insecure in your relationship.
According to relationship expert Neely Steinberg, âIt may be tempting to comment on your partner’s ex — especially if he or she is meddling in your relationship — but airing your grievances on social media is passive aggressive. Keep these matters between the two of you; your 1000 friends don’t need to know.â If your partner has chosen you over other people theyâve dated, theyâve done so for a reason! Enjoy being the chosen one and leave past relationships in the past.
Final Thoughts on Keeping Relationship Details off of Social Media
Social media can be fun and a great way to connect. It can also feel nice to show off your relationship a little – but in the right ways! Avoid this faux pas when posting about your relationship on social media. Not everything has to go up on Facebook or Twitter; the more you keep between you and your partner, the stronger your relationship will be. After all, you donât need everyone elseâs noses in your business!
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