As we are all well aware, a relationship is a two-way street; there has to be a mutual and foundational understanding for the entire thing to work out. If this foundational mutual interest does not exist, the relationship will likely deteriorate to a point where it is beyond repair.
Perhaps the most challenging scenario is when one person in the relationship cannot make things work despite all their best efforts. Understandably, this person will often safeguard their emotions by unconsciously enabling denial. âAh, itâs only temporaryâ or âHe/She will come around.â This is not always the case, however, which is the point of this article.
âIâm not interested in trying to work on peopleâs perceptions. I am who I am, and if you donât take the time to learn about that, then your perception is going to be your problem.â – Jim Brown, Former NFL Football Player
Weâll discuss several signs â 21 to be exact â that may indicate that your partner isnât interested any longer.
21 Signs Your Partner Isn’t Interested Anymore
Here they are, in no particular order.
1. They are always âtoo busyâ
Two people in a healthy relationship always make time for each other, almost without exception. This is evident during conversations when they will quickly disengage and fire some random, unmerited excuse about having to do âsomething important.â
2. Theyâre around more when they want something
Many humans are inherently selfish creatures, but a disinterested partner becomes a bit more selfish than most. They have no problem ignoring you 90 percent of the time, but the remaining 10 percent is when they âreally needâ something. Anger ensues.
3. Theyâre non-communicative
Communication that is non-existent or highly sporadic is a clear sign of disinterest. After all, who doesnât want communication with a person they care about?
4. They always talk about themselvesâŚ
When there is communication, the topic of discussion always seems to focus on them. This is perhaps most evident when they are on a tirade of something burdensome, like work.
5. …while taking little interest in your life
âHow was your day?â is a phrase no longer incorporated by the disinterested one. Instead, they remember theyâre disinterested and either shut down or redirect the conversation to numero uno.
6. Theyâre very controlling
This is borderline abuse, plain and simple. See, theyâre not actually interested in you, but they are interested in controlling you. Itâs despicable behavior that should signal the victim to run the other way.
7. Theyâre incessantly blameful
Continuously blaming someone else without merit is often an intentional act to push someone away. Itâs cowardly and, again, borderline abusive.
8. Theyâre frequently disrespectful
UghâŚyeah⌠someone that isnât interested anymore can get downright nasty in their mannerisms and other behaviors. Again, this is their character flaw, not yours.
9. They seem to change youâŚfor the worse
Itâs not uncommon for someone on the receiving end of a disinterested personâs mischiefs to feel changed. As a result, you may find that you smile less, are more lethargic, and so on. A very unfortunate realization, indeed.
10. They disregard your value
This one truly is troubling. A person that is (1) lacking basic decency and (2) categorically disinterested will have no trouble in devaluing someone else; even someone they used to âcareâ about.
11. They donât bother including you
Oh, you used to hang out with each otherâs friends? Not anymore. They got a promotion and didnât tell you? It shouldnât be a surpriseâŚtheyâre already disengaged.
12. Theyâre heavy on the excuses
Similar to empty apologies, excuses are thrown around when we lack any motivation to abstain from such behavior. An interested person doesnât issue meaningless excuses.
13. They seem less concerned about your welfare
When we truly care for someone else, we make it a priority to concern ourselves with their welfare. Heck, even a stranger can sympathize or empathize with someone else. This is disrespect to the highest degree.
14. They begin ignoring your inner circle
This doesnât always take place, but ignoring/disrespecting/avoiding your inner circle is an intentional act. Itâs effective at provoking anger.
15. They issue empty apologies
Episodes of empty apologies seem to be on a loop when one begins to feel disinterested. Itâs simple really: they donât find it necessary to put meaning behind their words anymore. Kind of similar to how youâre sorry when arriving late at workâŚif that makes sense.
16. They seem to âforgetâ a lot
Especially concerning things that they used to remember. When this happens, it is almost assuredly a sign of disinterest. When weâre not engaged, we tend to âhearâ more often than listen.
17. Thereâs a lot of sex, but not much more
âFriends with benefitsâ doesnât apply here, as you’re supposed to be considered much more. When casual sexual encounters are frequent, but true intimacy isnât, it speaks volumes about their real intentions.
18. Theyâre non-committal
When the other person evades anything in regards to commitment, itâs generally not a very good sign. The only exception to this rule is if youâve been dating for a short period of time while discussing the future together. Other than this caveat, the other person just isnât interested much.
19. They treat others better than you
The lady at the local grocery store bagging your stuff seems to get better treatment than you do. When he or she is cordial to seemingly everyone else but you, itâs a sign that things are disintegrating quickly.
20. Theyâre cheating
This one kind of goes without saying. Cheating is a sign of complacency at best and a sign of complete disinterest at worst. Either way, it shouldnât be tolerated.
21. You always seem to be crying
This is the unfortunate result of any number of behaviors listed here. Feelings get hurt, people get upset, and tears are shed. However, if this happens frequently, itâs time to move on.
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