The truth matters. It affects your relationships in your family, at work, and school. Merriam Webster defines truth as a body of real things, events, and facts. When you tell the truth to someone, youâre honest with them. But it can be difficult to be honest because you donât know the person will react to the truth.
Kindness counts and goes hand in hand with revealing the truth
The truth should always be shared with kindness. Plus, knowing the person youâre talking to is important. If youâve just met someone, it may not be the right time to be honest with them about their bad breath. But with a close friend, you can comfortably tell them youâre upset with them about something. Of course, you should be kind even then. Bullying or belittling someone and saying, âIâm just being honestâ is honesty motivated by unkindness. You donât want to help the person, but hurt them with your words.
Whatâs the opposite of honesty?
The opposite of honesty is flattery or insincerity. Most people would rather hear the truth instead of being flattered. Flattery isnât motivated by a desire to tell the truth but to get some time. If someone flatters you, they arenât as interested in you as they are themselves. Truthful people are trustworthy friends. You know theyâll always tell you the truth no matter what because they want the best for you, even if itâs hard for you to hear it.
How to be a truthful person
Here is how to come to terms with your lying ways and find a more honest approach.
âIf an offense come out of the truth, better is it that the offense come than that the truth be concealed.â Thomas Hardy, Tess of the D’Urbervilles
1 – A truthful person honestly explains their struggles.
Learn how to share your struggles and weaknesses with people. Sharing your struggles makes you seem like a normal person. Without realizing it, you may come across as having it all together. When you share about the hard things youâre trying to work out, people can relate to you. But honesty must be shared without wrong motives. Some wrong reasons to share your struggles openly could be to elicit the following outcomes:
- Make people feel sorry for you.
- Get someone to do something for you.
- Draw attention to yourself
- Vent anger at someone
This is just complaining rather than sharing honestly about your life. People get tired of hearing people complain, so check your motives before you start blogging about your hard day at home with the kids. Rather try to share but bring a positive out of it, something youâve learned or how youâve suddenly understood yourself better because of the experience. This not only allows you to be honest, but it helps the people you share with.
2 – A truthful personâs actions should match words.
If you tell someone, youâre their good friend. Then your actions should show this is true. You will text, call, and hang out with them. If you ignore them, they will feel like you werenât truthful with them. When actions and words donât line up, you are seen as dishonest and untrustworthy. People will doubt that youâre truthful if you arenât authentic.
3 – A truthful person can accept and give constructive criticism.
Criticism is a form of truth-telling. People are often afraid of being criticized for fear of being judged. But getting constructive feedback isnât judgment. Itâs not to hurt you, but to help you grow. Some jobs, like being a writer, require that you learn to listen to constructive criticism.
Psychological studies conclude that some people lie because of negative thoughts, such as fear-based emotions or guilt.
Here are a few tips for receiving constructive criticism.
- Learn how to sort through the criticism: Not everything someone shares with you will be spot on. But it would help if you realized that there is probably a grain of truth in what they are sharing. Look for those little grains of truth and apply them to your life so you can improve or grow.
- Thank the person for being honest with you: Itâs not easy sharing constructive criticism. Itâs tempting to tell people what they want to hear, rather than being honest. If you have someone who shares their constructive criticism with you, itâs a gift.
- Learn to have thick skin: The more you experience constructive criticism, the better you will accept it without feeling devastated. Keep in mind that the person is trying to help you. They are pointing out your weak areas so you can grow and improve.
- Donât listen to hateful people: Of course, some people arenât trying to help you but want to wound you. Donât take it to heart when someone purposely tries to hurt you.
- Learn how to give constructive criticism with honesty and kindness: You will be a valued friend to those around you if you learn to share honest, constructive criticism with them. They will know they can trust you to be totally honest with them.
4 – A truthful person speaks honestly.
Seek to be honest with people. Itâs okay to say, âI felt left out that you guys didnât call me to join everyone after work.â You donât need to play the victim, but be honest about your disappointment. One psychological study found that many people arenât comfortable with this kind of honesty. They have learned to hide their true feelings and even justify it as âI donât want to hurt peopleâs feelings by telling them how I really feel. If you can be honest without being manipulative or unkind, that is being a truthful person.
You may have learned to lie about their true feelings in childhood. Perhaps your parents got mad at you when you told Aunt Edna that you didnât like the clown sweater she knitted for you. Parents often misinterpret their childrenâs honesty as rudeness. But itâs important to teach your kids to tell the truth with kindness. They can be at least grateful. One mom taught her kids to say, âThanks for making this. You must have worked hard.â Being thankful and grateful for something is truthful honesty.
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Why donât you tell the truth?
We all lie once in a while, but if you lie a lot, there could be some reasons why you. See if any of these hits close to home for you.
You feel like you arenât worth knowing.
Because of this, you embellish the truth a bit to portray yourself as smarter, stronger, and more successful than you are. You may feel that if people really knew what you were like, theyâd be unimpressed.
You fear being judged.
Youâre afraid of peopleâs bad opinions of you. You want to please your boss, so you always say yes to extra work, but you tell your co-workers how much you dislike the boss, so they wonât think youâre sucking up to your boss. Itâs a tangled web to keep lying, to avoid peopleâs bad opinions of you.
Research confirms that many people lie to cope with peer pressure or to boost self-esteem.
Your fear of being rejected
You feel the need to be liked by everyone and accept you. You exaggerate, brag, and show off to be liked. Youâre the clown at work or school. You are afraid if people wouldnât like the real you, so you hide.
Vulnerability is scary
Itâs hard, to be honest, to be really yourself around people. You may feel too vulnerable and out of control when you are honest. Or perhaps you were hurt in the past for being vulnerable, so you feel itâs too dangerous. You may lack wisdom in who to trust. If youâve made mistakes and thought you could trust people who werenât trustworthy, it may cause you to back off and refuse to be honest with anyone.
How to start being truthful and trustworthy
Thereâs no time like now to begin a new season of being truthful. It can change your life and the lives of those around you when you begin to be an honest person. Here are some simple tips for beginning your truthful journey.
1 – Be honest with yourself.
Tell yourself the truth. If you arenât truthful with yourself, you wonât be with others. Itâs okay not to be the prettiest, smartest, most successful person at work or school. You have things to give, but donât evaluate your worth based on what you think others want. Try saying thing like
âIâm___________and thatâs okay, because Iâm a worthy person.â
âIâm not good at _______________and thatâs okay.
âI will never be able to ______________, but there are many other things I can do.â
2 – Stop the lie when it begins.
If you have a habit of lying about your family, don’t lie when you talk about them. Begin to tell the truth about them.
3 – Donât try to be anybody else but yourself
Social media bombards you with how you should look, dress, and act. Itâs easy to compare yourself with celebrities, bloggers, and other seemingly successful people. You may be tempted to try to look or act like they do instead of being yourself.
4 – Begin sharing your feelings with people
Start opening up about your feelings. If youâre having a hard day at work, tell your co-worker. Itâs okay to feel down or overwhelmed sometimes. Start small and share with people you can trust. In time, youâll begin to be honest about your feelings without fear.
5 – See a therapist if necessary
If you feel like you have to lie, it may be time to see a counselor or therapist to help you break the habit.
Final Thoughts on Why Telling the Truth Equals Trust
Truth equals trustworthiness in the eyes of your family, friends, and co-workers. Today, why not start speaking the truth to yourself and others so you can enjoy newfound freedom. There is no other way around it–to be trusted, you must tell the truth.
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